Studies show that its actually good to have high expectations when it comes to your relationship. Its healthy to have expectations of respect, affection, intimacy, time together, etc. Being in a healthy relationship means you are getting your needs met by a person you love and trust. Its good to have expectations.

Is it OK to have expectations of people?

Its okay to have an expectation. Its okay to ask for the best from another, and its okay for someone else to ask for the best from you, too. Expectations are how we learn. Expectations teach us what we need, what we have to give, how we love, how we hurt, and when its time to walk away.

Why is it not good to have expectations?

Expecting life to always turn out the way you want is guaranteed to lead to disappointment because life will not always turn out the way you want it to. And when those unfulfilled expectations involve the failure of other people to behave the way you expect them to, the disappointment also involves resentment.

Is expectations bad in a relationship?

In a good enough relationship, people have high expectations for how theyre treated. They expect to be treated with kindness, love, affection, and respect. People should not expect to solve all of the problems in their relationship, either. My Love Lab studies found that almost ⅔ of relationship conflict is perpetual.

Should we have expectations?

Setting goals (or expectations) motivates us, excites us, and makes us want to push ourselves to grow. Managing expectations is not always going to be easy, since there are good and bad sides to having them. We should always remember that certain things might be in our control, while many might not.