To maintain and grow that connection, its important to do the very things that got you in the relationship to begin with, such as, taking each other out on dates, he says. If once a week seems like too much for you and/or baes schedules, life coach Nina Rubin thinks at least once a month is perfectly fine also.

How often do husbands and wives make love?

“Normal” is whatever feels fulfilling for you and your partner, and communication plays a key role in making sure both parties feel fulfilled. That said, a 2017 study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that the average adult currently enjoys sex 54 times a year, which equates to about once a week.