If you and your partner are taking a break from the relationship, it should be exactly that — a break, she explains. Going no contact might sound vindictive or rude, but its really the best way to embrace your time apart, which is the whole purpose of the break.

Should you keep in contact during a break?

Says Birch: “Breaks should not be indefinite. If you choose to go on a break, set the date when youll come back together for a check-in. Anywhere between two and four weeks of no contact or very minimal contact is a good place to start, but it could be longer.”

Should I message him after a break?

If things ended cordially, you shouldnt wait too long after a breakup to send that first text. That creates awkwardness, relationship coach Chris Armstrong explains to Elite Daily. Any lag in communication could build up unnecessary tension, which is the exact opposite of what you want.